But most of all, a virgin ought to be very aroused before penetration (this is true of any and all intercourse, pretty much, but especially first time).
We're also told that our first time and losing your virginity is defined by the first I know that I was terrified of vaginal intercourse before I did it.
When you are first experimenting with sex, it's very common to experience some problems and disappointments. Take it slowly, be patient, and talk openly.
Also check in with your partner to see how he or she is feeling and take it slowly — especially at first.
Think about ways to enhance your relationship without sex first.
Everyone says losing your virginity is either painful and awkward or and discomfort like penetration of the vagina or anus, but sex can hurt in.
Your hymen is probably still intact, and your boyfriend may be finding that a little difficult to penetrate.